Another one for you. This just happened to a friend of mine.
He met what he thought was a perfect match. I met her as well and thought that she’s definitely a perfect match for him (yes, dumb and I was fooled again).
They started doing a lot of things together. He spent time and money on her and she did as well, but not as much he and thought it would last forever and that that’s the last one for him (remember the 3-Month Rule)? Again not following the Three-Month Rule. He is in his late 40s. She actually is in her mid-50s (red flag). They planned vacations and things that they thought they would be doing in the future. He thought she is (the one).
Well, just this week, she told him out of nowhere that she was moving back to where she’s from which is on the east coast of the US. He’s on the West Coast. Literally out of nowhere. She had kind of been hinting for it for a while, but never acted on it and even told him that she’s definitely not going to do that. Because she had thought through it and she really likes him so for that she would not move. But again, out of where way she now says she is definitely moving in within two months.
Obviously, it broke his heart and we will see how long it’s going to take for him to get over it (again, he was fooled and didn’t follow the Three-Month Rule). I told him to just stop talking to her and at this point he has followed up with that. She has texted him a couple times with saying that she misses him and it give him some hope. I said don’t believe that and she’s probably just using him because she’s bored and lonely during this prior to moving (using them).
As is typical for women, she’s never apologized for using him for those times together because, she many times it said that she would never go back to a state that makes her sick when she thinks about it! that they live in now that she is bored a lot, and doesn’t have any friends. But of course he didn’t listen and obviously because he’s a great guy and a very nice guy. And again because he thought he found the one and likely would she would change her mind. I said “nope”, and she is simply using him.
Well, she showed her true self by just telling him out of nowhere that he’s moving and leaving him alone. You can’t make this stuff up!
How had he follow the 3-Month Rule he would have saved him from the pain and misery and saved money as well. Of course he didn’t listen.
Once again guys follow the Three-Month Rule and don’t get involved and just do simple things occasionally with the person and do not get mentally involved. Trust me it’ll save you. It’ll save you time, money and your sanity!